Making Everyday Extraordinary!


By Suchada Eickemeyer

Last week I had the opportunity to attend a parenting conference with a breakout session in mindfulness.  I expected deep breathing, but the first exercise was pretending to cut fingernails.

Each person teamed up with a partner, determined who was the trimmer and who was the trimee, grabbed a hand and pretended to clip away – quickly, thoughtlessly and paying little attention to the task of the person attached to the hand.

We laughed while we did it, thinking that the instructions to not worry whether we got a little skin or drew blood were silly as we quickly finished.

The next step was to trim the nails on the other hand, but this time to do it with purpose.  We introduced ourselves, said who we were.  We cut carefully this time, looking up at our partner before we touched a finger, and explaining what the next action would be.  We moved slowly around each nail, being careful not to catch any skin or cause any pain.  Each movement was gentle and soothing.

When we were done the facilitator asked us to stand up, close our eyes, and observe how our hands felt.  Did we notice a difference between out hands?

We did.  The hands that were dealt with quickly felt heavy and lifeless.  The ones that were treated with care felt warm, tingly and alive.  I was surprised at the degree of difference, and the experience made me realize how I can use everyday experiences to thoughtfully connect with my children.

Since I attended the conference, the daily chores with my children have taken on new meaning.  Diaper changes, getting dressed and buckling into the car seat have changed from things the “just needed to get done” to opportunities to slow down and interact with the most important people in my life.

I stopped rushing through each task, and started working on being present, no matter how mundane the chore.

It begins with not making it all about me.  Before I change a diaper, before I sit my children down to clip their nails, or before I come at them with a cloth to wipe their face, I ask myself, “is this a good time” What is my child doing? Is this something worth interrupting their time for, or is it something that can wait for a break in their play?

Next, I tell them what I need to do and wait for a response.  “It’s time to get your diaper changed.  May I pick you up and move you?  I will wait until I get a “yes”, or raised arms, or a nod.  Part of being mindful is respecting that my children are individuals who deserve to know before I life them or move them.

As we do whatever needs to be done, I make eye contact and talk them through what’s happening.  With clipping the nails, I show them the clippers and tell them how they work.  I let them know which finger I’m going to clip; that I’m sliding the blade under the nail, and how many clips it takes.  The first time I did this, I had them asking for their turns after each hand and foot – it became an experience, not a chore.

It’s hard to be present in everyday tasks all the time.  Our world is full of distractions and overwhelming desire to multitask.  It takes practice to slow down and focus, but the reward id greater joy, surprisingly discovered in the simple and the mundane.



Dr. Brad Norman

Dr. Brad Norman

Dr. Brad Norman, D.C., is a seasoned chiropractic practitioner and the insightful voice behind New Life Chiropractor's blog. With a Doctor of Chiropractic degree from Canadian Memorial Chiropractic College and a Bachelor of Science in Kinesiology from Western University, Dr. Norman combines deep expertise with a passion for holistic wellness. Proudly serving the community since 2002, Dr. Norman and the New Life Chiropractic clinic continue to be beacons of health and education for their patients, guiding them to a more vibrant and pain-free life.